Question by Ash B: My boyfriend likes to cross dress and I’m starting to feel suicidal about it, what do i do?
We are getting to our two year mark in two months.. He told me he wants to be a girl when we started dating at two months. I thought I could handle it (I was extremely uncomfortable and devastated when he told me) because he said he only thought about it and would never venture past that..
Over time I found out he liked to wear this little pair of girly cat ears, and began wearing my shirts then my skirts, pantyhose, shoes, make up, and accessories (hair bows, bracelets, necklaces, etc.) and eventually, we were fooling around and when I pulled down MY pair of jeans he was wearing I found he was secretly wearing my panties (he had stole them and a lot more from my closet). He talks about the surgery and how he’s going into the air force to save up for it, and its making me go insane!! I swear it aches at my heart to see him wear my clothes!! He told me at the beginning of our relationship he bought the skirts for me as a present, but it was only an excuse so he could have them close by without his at-the-time roomate finding out.
We have more issues between us like how he cheated on me for 10 months with two of his ex’s because they were bisexual and were completely accepting of this behavior as he knew I was uncomfortable.
I don’t stop him from cross dressing, but I feel no sexual attraction whatsoever to him and fooling around with him makes me want to cry and vomit and almost feels like rape. I’ve tried sitting down and politely talking about it, but he just calls me a ‘controlling bitch’ and says that he is still the same person underneath the clothes, and that I should accept him or otherwise “deal with it”. The WORST part is is that he lives with me and would be literally homeless if I kicked him out. He has NO friends and refuses to make any, and tags along with me EVERYWHERE I go and even complains if I don’t let him sit in the bathroom with me when I go! He scared off ALL of my friends, so now I am very lonely, and I only have him as a companion. I’m a very shy person so making friends for me is awkward so its not like I can just go out and make more. I feel so lonely and depressed I’m starting to feel suicidal… I literally want to cry every single day, and I think of just ending myself constantly.. I don’t believe in suicide as the right way to go as I’m really religious, but it’s starting to seem like the only way out..
He is starting to get physically abusive and even more controlling with me, and I think I’m starting to go mentally insane..
I’m sorry for the long story, but please help me. I don’t want to hurt his feelings but at the same time if I lose him I’ll be completely alone..
(By the way, he is NOT gay.. just gender confused..)
Answer by xXsherXx
start wearing his clothes and see how he feels
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